Two years ago, I published this picture with the caption "Real women have curves". I have now realized how wrong this was. Because what this would mean is that women that are skinny or have another kind of body are not real women. We are not all the same, we don't have the same genetics or metabolism or a number of other things that influence the way we are so, why would we try to achieve something that is not meant for us? This goes for everyone and everything, I dont just mean weigth (lose it or even gain it), I also mean features or something else that is part of who you are but you dont like. This being said I think it is important to clarify that I don't think that if you are being unhealthy about your weight (eating disorders, starvation, obesity, lack of exercise, too much of it etc.) you should continue being that way and people should be OK about it. What I mean is that people should accept you the way you are but you should always try to be the best version of yourself while being aware of who you are and of the fact that you are different from other people and that you can't change certain things.

Free yourself

Beauty

The Nu Project

The Nu Project is a series of honest nudes of women from all over the world. The project began in 2005 and has stayed true to the original vision: no professional models, minimal makeup and no glamour. The focus of the project has been and continues to be the subjects and their personalities, spaces, insecurities and quirks.

Be loud

“If you inhabit a body that’s in some way been deemed unacceptable— if you’re a woman, a queer person, a transgender person, a person of color, a person of the ‘wrong’ size or shape, a trauma victim of any gender— then to insist upon your own existence is one of the most revolutionary acts you can perform.”
— The Eyes On the Bus. Carolyn Zaikowski writes a different approach to self-care.

Healthy food

HERE ARE SOME EXAMPLES OF HEALTHY FOOD THAT WILL HEPL YOU RECOVER. No copyright intended, none of this belongs to me. All rights ashley bar.tumblr.com/

Real women have curves

What's your idea of beauty? Do you want to be happy? Is what you're doing really worth it? Do you want to be starving, hungry, have bad breath and hate yourself? Or accept the fact that you are beautiful in your own way, no matter what people say?  

 

Brain is very powerful, you can make your mind understeand and make your own way, establish your own rules of the game, regardless of other people opinions. Don't fall for their stupid stereotypes. 
Picture sources: google image &  es.paperblog.com/las-mujeres-de-verdad-tienen-curvas-1396783/

Enjoy the pleasures of life

At the end of rebalancing diet comes

Source: The Fault in Our Stars

Stop counting

Source: The Fault in Our Stars

Source: anorexia recovery | Tumblr

Don't underestimate the effect you can have on people

Learning how to eat

I've recently read many blogs about recovery recipies and all of them say the same. You MUST gain weight.

First thing you need to know is you will be feeling really full, your body needs time to readapt to a healthy lifestyle after you gain some weight. It is completly normal to feel gross, weird, bloated and sometimes very guilty.

Learning how to eat again is one of the most difficult steps of recovery, it takes a lot of time and courage because your body isn't used to that alimentary habits anymore but it's all part of the process, you won't feel bad forever. 

This may sound ironic but you need to forget about the calories counting and food, don't blame yourself, avoid comparing to others, you are beautiful in your own way and you don't need to keep starving to be pretty, you need to be happy. To forget about your ED, think about something else and get distracted, everytime you feel you will be tempted or you feel you can't do it anymore, go out, take a walk, be with your friends, listen to a good song, do something usefull but stop focusing on your misery and pain because it will only get worse, get out. 

A good way of making eating a good time is by cooking your own meals and make some fun recipies which I'll try to be posting later. 

Don't say this to someone with an ED!

I was looking at a tumblr about anorexia recovery when I saw this and I thought it was worth it :

izzie1301 posted it 

Ten most annoying things to say to someone with an eating disorder

1. You’re not anorexic, you look fine! 
2. Just eat a balanced diet and exercise for thirty minutes a day, and you’ll  be fine.
3. I’m starting this new diet..
4. Starving yourself is really bad for you *goes on to explain multiple things that starving can do to your body*
5. I know how you feel, I almost never eat sweets apart from on special occasions because I feel fat.
6. I know what you’re going through, I was anorexic for a week once
7. There’s nothing wrong with doing lots of exercise. 
8. Just stop obsessing about weight
9. I barely need any food, I never get hungry
10. Anorexia is a disease that happens when someone gets really thin

Source: anorexia recovery | Tumblr 

Rebalancing diet

You may not be ready to follow these. But once you start doing your rebalancing diet, you must follow them in order to control yourself. 

If others made it, you can do it

This is an article from Hollywood life about Demi Lovato. 

Demi Lovato has come a long way. After going to rehab for an eating disorder and being diagnosed with bipolar disorder, today, the X Factor judge is healthy, strong and learning about herself every day.

Demi has found a great support system in new friends that “have more interests than wanting to go to clubs and get wasted.”

“I’ve spent the past two years getting over an eating disorder and issues like self-harming and bipolar disorder. Unlike a person who doesn’t have these problems, I have to work on this stuff every day. I’m reminded of that whenever I eat or feel down.”

Demi is so strong – every single day she struggles, but is working hard to become more confident. ”Mean comments don’t affect me the same way [the used to] because I’m more confident. If I read something where someone calls me a b*tch, I know I’m not, so I laugh at it.”

Demi continues to speak out for young girls who struggle with their image. “I want girls to know that it’s OK when they grow up and their body changes. I want them to be aware that certain things they might do to lose weight can be dangerous — life-threatening, even.”

It definitely takes effort, but Demi is willing to put in the time to help herself and others. ”You can choose to work towards happiness or not. I used to expect it to come to me, but it takes more than seeing a therapist once a week. I make time for myself and meditate.”

Source: Demi Lovato’s Rehab Story — Opens Up About Eating Disorder & Cutting - Hollywood Life

Demi Lovato on the Ellen Show

The following video is an interview of Demi Lovato on the Ellen show, in which she talks about her struggles with ED's, bullying and others. After knowing what she has been through you may see it is possible to recover and maybe you will find in her inspiration. 

Recovery takes time

I am not a nutritionist, I am not a psicologist and I am not a doctor. But hopefully, you will be able to relate to this and find it usefull.

You probably know how it starts, at first it doesn't look like something you should worry about. " I'm fine" "It's my body, leave me alone" "It all starts very gently.
One day you become conscient about it, you asssume you have a problem but you still have it under control, nothing's wrong, you're not like those girls in the pictures where you can only see the bones and the cuts.
Next thing you know is that you do have and eating disorder but Who cares? You know it's wrong, but it's working. Except one day you realize how far you've come and it starts scaring you because you wish you could eat normally, you want to stop starving yourself but you're terrified of getting fat again. And that's when you start fighting against ED's.

First of all, you need to get something in your mind: it's not your fault! DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF!
There's nobody to blame, noone is guilty.

You already acomplished one of the most important steps to recovery: the "wanting to". And this is crucial because you must want it so bad that no matter how many times you fail and how hard it will be, you will NEVER GIVE UP. And you will try again. Recovery is not magical, it will take time. You must learn to feal comfortable about yourself, you need to truly believe that you are nothing less than beautiful.

The next step you need to take is the "coming out", telling people about your goal. It doesn't matter if you tell your best friend, your online friends or someone else but you need to convince yourself and have support. Get help!

What you have to do next is eliminate your support network, get rid of all the pro-ana and mia blogs, "thinspiration", unfollow the twitter accounts, the forums and everything that may bring negative thoughts again. It will feel easier and you won't have to resist temptation from the others while you're already fighting against yourself. Then try looking for something that inspires you, a passion, a hobby, find a motivation, listen to happy music, search inspirational quotes. Anything that makes you want to go on.

Finally, you must slowly have a rebalancing diet.